i met a guy few weeks ago and we started getting along, he just told me this morning that he was shoot and i ask why, and he said that was back in the days in was in a gang star group and the police was shooting at them and a bullet hit him, so he was in prison for 14yrs and just got out 4months ago. and he said that his starting all over again and just got a job to work at a gym. i don't know if i should work away or just stay clam and see how things goes, his sound really like a good guy and it looks like he has change and learnt his lessons so he said. but to be honest am a bit scared. pls advice
I believe that people can change in life and they always deserve second chances. With that said, 14 years is an extremely long time for someone to be away so it's important you know exactly what you're dealing with before you get involved with someone like this.
If you believe this person is worth getting to know and that he has learned and grown since his past experiences, that's cool. Give them a chance but if you sense any signs that his past is affecting his present, you must acknowledge the red flags and leave. Don't be blinded by your affections and miss the signs of someone who's violent, dangerous, unstable, etc.
@DiaryDiscussions thanks alot
Here is a bit of advice from experience. I'm currently dating a guy who also did time in prison. You could have never tell by his looks alone bc the way he can wear a suit but anyways I found that him being in prison caused some concern but in reality right now is the least of my problems. I realized the way he treats me out weighs everything else. He has a decent job and he makes money honestly. So I say go for it but make sure to take it slow because I found out we have other issues that dont surround his past.