It's clear to me that relationships can be very trying at times. There can be moments where things seem to go downhill, which causes the faith of your relationship to be tested. No one wants to think of their partner ever hurting, or betraying them. However, as hard as it might seem to accept sometimes, the ones we love the most can be the ones who hurt us the most.
In a relationship, forgiveness is very important. Being able to muster up the strength and courage to forgive someone who has hurt you, is a big step.The smaller things in a relationship such as arguing and annoying each other from time to time is quite normal. It is almost impossible to ever be in a relationship where you don't have an argument, or a minor falling out. Personalities do clash, and things do get a little hectic sometimes. Let's face it - life's not perfect, and neither are relationships.
Though situations might be difficult at times, the two things you should never do in a relationship are lie and cheat! There are just certain boundaries that should never be crossed. Relationships that are built on a lack of trust, and dishonesty are just doomed for disaster. If you can't be upfront about everything, then you certainly don't deserve my trust or respect at all.
I think that liars are one of the biggest turn offs. If you feel the need to lie to me, then you are hiding something. From the little white lies to the major lies, in the end someone always end up hurt. Having a relationship built on lies shatters all hope for any kind of trust. Finding out that your partner has been lying to you not only causes anger and hurt, but also causes you to have trust issues that might not be easy to let go of. A lack of trust causes you to question everything; how do you know if this or that is the truth? He lied to me before, who says he won't lie again? Being with someone who causes you to question things is never a good thing!
If you are in a relationship, flirting is a NO-NO! I think that flirting is a form of cheating. While flirting can be a way to start conversations and be a way to engage with others, you should never do it if you are in a relationship. Flirting can lead to tension in a relationship because no man or woman ever wants to feel insecure about anything. While it is fine for my boyfriend to have female friends, I think that there are certain things that are just out of line. Touching or caressing other females, having sexual conversations with other females, going out on dates with other females, constantly texting, and talking on the phone to other females are all considered cheating!
Having sex with another person is the ultimate unforgivable act in a relationship. You should just never allow things to get so far out of hand that you cheat! Cheating just creates too many complications that often times forces one person to either forgive and move on, or leave. I think that if you cheat, it simply means that there is something else that you need. If you are in a relationship, and you are 100% happy, and satisfied - why cheat? (I don't see no other way around it)
Lying and cheating are just two of the many things that can sometimes be unforgivable in a relationship. If you have ever encountered either of the two, the only way that you can truly move on is if you forgive, and forget. If you continue in a relationship that has gone through lying and cheating without forgiving your partner, the relationship will never be the same. There will always be resentment and trust issues no matter how hard you try to move on and pretend it never happened.
I know that some things are just so painful that it makes it almost impossible to forgive. But, forgiveness restores strength, and happiness. Holding on to pain and anger caused by someone allows them to control you. Know your worth, and know that YOU control your happiness.
What thing(s) do you think is/are forgivable in a relationship? Do you forgive, and forget ?
I actually think that lying is kinda forgiveable. We all do it from time to time, even if just to protect our partners. But the most unforgivable acts are cheating and abuse, dont you think?
Yes! you are absolutely right. Abuse is definitely a big unforgivable act! I personally hate liars. In a relationship if I am constantly being lied to, then that's just going to push me away. Sure we all lie at times, but if I feel as though it's something big and you constantly lie then I just can't stay with you. If I'm not worth you telling the truth then what's the point of being with you. Good insights. Thanks!
I agree with Pink Poodle, cheaters and beaters are absolutely unforgiveable!!
Lol, I'm sorry I didn't include domestic abuse. That one slipped me BIG time. But that is definitely true. I do believe that domestic violence should NEVER occur, and if it does happen - it shouldn't be so easy to forgive & move on. If it happens once, it can most likely happen again. I agree with you ladies 100%.
i think whatever mistakes i make as a woman would be the only things i would forgive about a man... flirting may be ok but like yall said, cheating is a no and abuse is a definite no