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Would You Live With a Partner Before Getting Married?

For many couples, one of the most important decisions they will ever make is deciding on the right time to move in together. With talks of a future that involves marriage and children, the notion of living together with a partner is often times seen as a step in the right direction.

But does the idea really work, or does it do more damage than good?

Deciding to move in with your lover before marriage opens up a world of possibilities. You now have the opportunity to get to know your partner on a more personal level, which may either strengthen the relationship, or end it before you ever make that trip down the aisle.

Living with a partner allows you to see whether or not you can deal with the things you might dislike, and if things get too hectic for you to stick around.

Everyone has different preferences, and the way you do things may very well differ from the way your partner does things. Men are not the easiest to deal with at times (and we know women may not be either); therefore, sharing a living space together may take some time getting used to.

Although living with your partner before marriage can stir up issues that you may not have had before, I think that it is an important step to take. I have seen many instances in which marriages fail because things got a little too out of hand when it was too late.

If you live with your partner before marriage, it gives you the opportunity to decide on whether or not you truly want to spend the rest of your lives together. There are many things to take in to consideration if you do decide to take that step. For example, if he snores, will it affect you? If he doesn’t put the toilet seat back down when he uses the bathroom, will it annoy you? If he doesn’t do chores, will it piss you off? Though they may be seen as small things, they can frustrate you to the point that it becomes a bigger issue.

I think that it’s better to move in your partner before marriage in order to avoid difficulties that may arise after the walk down the aisle. Living with your partner will give you the opportunity to know for sure if you can really live up to the vows you will make when the time comes. When you make that vow to stay together “‘til death do us part” – you want to make sure that you are able to live up to that.

Knowing how it is to live together may also give you a chance to avoid bringing children in to the mix of any chaos that might come about. It makes no sense to get married to someone with whom you can’t seem to see eye to eye with. Living together will give you the opportunity to know for sure if you can really make it work “through thick and thin” and “til death,” or if you’ll want to bail when it becomes too much to handle.

Would YOU make the decision to move in with your partner before saying ‘I do?’ or do you think it's better to wait?

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Permalink Reply by Delicia Davis Burrell on June 12, 2012 at 10:01am

I faced a lot of judgment when I decided to live with my husband before getting married. From family, friends, and random others... it was just sad that people would hide behind the notion of "not living with their partners" even though they were still sleeping with them. I always thought it was kind of hypocritical to pass judgment on someone who knows what they want and sticks to what they believe in- for me that was knowing what I was getting into before taking those vows.

Well, I have never for a moment regretted my decision to live with my hubby. We both learned a whole lot about each other and were very sure about our decision to spend our lives together. I understand the religious standpoint of many others wanting to wait on shacking up but for me it was the best decision I could have made.

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Permalink Reply by Missy on July 11, 2012 at 2:57pm

This is an issue based on a persons religious beliefs. But i feel in this day, theres enuf people having sex n having kids together, that living together just happens to be the next step. So whos any1 to judge you. I doubt the people judging has it all together. Most of them are commiting bigger sins and lying about it. @Delicia Its good that u are happy about the decision u made n dont go back on it because of what other sinners n judgmental people have to say

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Permalink Reply by Dolly davis on July 11, 2012 at 3:02pm

hell no!! i did it before & you will end up not even a couple : (

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Permalink Reply by Missy on July 11, 2012 at 3:12pm

i guess everybodys experience is different. i always thought living together is the best way 2 get 2 know a person. what happened in ur situation?

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