We are often the victims of heartbreak and it sucks! When our loved one turns out to be a cheater, we all wonder "why me?" when it happens. We want to know why they did it and why we didn't see the signs. Thing is, the signs of a cheater is usually staring us in the face but most the time, we refuse to accept and acknowledge it.
Guys could be sneaky about it but girls are usually smart. We have to notice the changes in our relationships and the red flag signals. I've picked up on a few over the years and will supply you with 5 surefire signs of a cold blooded cheater...
#1 If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. Don't you ladies know a guy who was in a relationship when he met you and was looking to find the next best thing- you- and will continue looking for the next best while he's with you? A dog is a dog and if he had the audacity to do it once, what makes you think he won't do it again?
#2 If he has a wandering eye, believe me, he's looking for something. It's only a matter of time until he finds it. And I'm not talking about a glance across a room. We all do that. We may be cuffed but we aren't blind. It's okay for your significant other to be aware of his surroundings so a glance is normal. But when those eyes keep following the ass, tits, lips, etc. of women on a regular basis, he is on the prowl. Let him know you notice it and ask him what he's looking for that he don't already have. Because soon enough, that look may turn into a touch...
#3 Extreme Jealousy is a sign of a guilty party. When your mate is so jealous about the guys you come into contact with and can't shake the thought of you cheating from his head, chances are he's acting on his own guilt... either that or he's insecure which is a whole 'nother issue. If he's checking your phone, monitoring your male interactions, starting fights that end with him leaving the house, and making accusations without good reason; he may be expressing the guilt of his own wrongdoings. If you're innocent and have made it clear in both words or actions, it's time to turn the questions back on him.
#4 You're with a weak and insecure man who doesn't appreciate what he's got. This is one of the most common signs of a cheater but most women ignore this, not realizing the danger we're in. A weak man will fall for anything and won't be able to stand up to peer pressure, temptation, or rejection. They don't appreciate what they've got because they're insecure and don't believe they have achieved enough even when they have a good, strong, quality woman on their arm. They are constantly looking for validation and find that only when they can conquer some new booty... instead of seeking to find it within themselves. Well ladies, be on the lookout, this kind of cheater comes in all forms. Seek out a strong, secure man who knows what he wants.
#5 He doesn't want you, respect you, or appreciate you. If you're with someone who does not treat you with the dignity, respect, and love that you deserve, chances are- he doesn't believe you deserve it. If at one point in your relationship, he did right by you but now he's not treating you the same, something is wrong. Either he lost interest, he doesn't love you, want you, or appreciate you. He probably keeps you around just to have some sideline booty but if you're not getting top-pick treatment, you probably aren't his top pick. Don't be foolish enough to believe you can change him and that this is what's normal. Love does NOT hurt. Love is patient. Love is kind. And if you are feeling like he isn't totally fulfilled, he probably isn't. Don't waste any more of your time in a relationship that isn't right. Approach the issues and if you aren't getting the responses you deserve, move on!
BONUS #6!!! If you suspect something's wrong and have good reason to believe your man is doing wrong, HE MOST LIKELY IS!!
NOTE: The previous signs of a cheater are valid for both men and women.
I completely disagree with 1-4.
1- Just because a person cheated in the past does not mean they will cheat in the future. People change and when they find that special person they will do whatever it takes to make sure nothing comes between them. Sometimes are just searching for that special person.
2- Just because you look doesn't mean you have to touch. Were all human and were always going to be attracted to good looking people and things. Its just nature.
3- Jealousy done not necessarily mean cheater. Some people are just not secure enough to be with some one and know that that person is not cheating.
4- It is more likely that a weak and insecure person will stay and be faithful because they don't want to have to go out and have to look for another person.
As for 5 and 6- There is some truth between both of these.
Ive had experiences that prove 1, 2, and 3 true for potential cheaters. Number 1 doesnt necessarily mean they are cheating on you but they have the potential to. I believe in karma so if you stole some1s man away, then someday he will do the same to u.Number 2- if a guy is constantly checking for other girls, hes def lookin for something. If hes not already cheating, im sure he wants to. And number 3 jealousy is a sign that theyre not comfortable with themself or something theyve done. And "extreme jealousy" can def be a sign of guilt.
Weak/insecure guys are capable of handling how they feel in different ways, cheating may be 1 of them but it isnt a definite.
I must be one of the girls who didnt see the signs. I was cheated on by a guy who showed me 1 through 4. But he treated me like a queen for the most part so I never would have assumed he wasnt into me anymore. Im glad I found out when i did though because i spent enough time with someone who didnt really give a damn about me. it was finally time to move on.
sorry to hear that Sandy. but i also have been cheated on by guys that proved ALL of the above true! I def agree with Pink that these are all the signs of a potential cheater but its up to us to read the signs and ACT on them ACCORDINGLY!
if you see ur man checking for other girls a little tooo much, u gotta check him right then an there! If u know u got with him while he was wit some1 else, u better believe it can happen 2 u. If hes wayy 2 jealous for NO reason, he most certainly has some guilt, and if hes been continuously MISTREATING u, u gotta let him go. And the insecurity & weakness mixed together can = a man who will cheat if he gets the OPPORTUNITY Dont ignore the signs like i did- IT IS WHHAT IT IS